Love is the easiest and works best when expressed as self-compassion. If we are not compassionate towards ourselves, we can't truly love another person, we can’t understand them fully. The flight attendants always remind us to put on our own mask first before assisting others. Self-compassion is a gate to happiness.
Self-love awakens your soul, self-love invites your soul to be more present in your physical body. The more you love and appreciate yourself, the more peace, love and light your body and nervous system can hold. And this is how you become the light, radiating the energy of peace, love and stillness.
This all sounds lovely, but most of us still struggle with self-love. So here are some ideas for you on how to be lovelier and kinder to yourself.
Go on a MIND DETOX.
On a regular detox, we stop eating junk food, unhealthy stuff, and tons of sugar. On a mind detox, we leave out complaining, trashing ourselves, being mean to ourselves, calling ourselves names, etc. You get the point. Never done it before? I invite you to a 7-day mind detox, where you will be kind to yourself, where you will appreciate yourself and give yourself the recognition and love you deserve. Your self-critic or self-victim will most likely try to sneak in, but you will catch them every time and say, "Thank you, but we are on themind detox."Try it, it’s fun and very rewarding! And you will build positive habits that may stay with you forever.
Practice AFFIRMATIONS.
I know affirmations are very worn off but they are great and work. Create your own affirmation in the form of ‘I AM ….’ for example ‘I am loveable’, ‘I am loving’, ‘I am enough’, ‘I am beautiful,’ ‘I am peace’, ‘I am loved and supported by the Universe’. These are just ideas, it’s best to create your own affirmations that resonate uniquely with you. What to do with your affirmations? Write them down 100 times a day in your journal, meditate on repeating them mentally, walk mentally repeating them, create a screensaver or drawing with them. Possibilities are endless.
Protect your energy.
Are you always making sure that other people’s needs are met first? Are you trying to be helpful to others while forgetting about yourself? It’s time to start valuing you and making yourself important to you. It’s time to start blessing yourself and connecting with the infinite qualities in you. Time to rely on your sacred space. The more you protect your energy and nurture your sacred space, the more your sacred space will protect and nurture you. Crete small habits where you protect your energy, value yourself and connect with your inner sacred space. I know I’m biassed, but I think the best way to connect with your sacred space is through yoga and meditation.
JOY in your heart.
Connect with your heart, see what comes to you when you think of joy and inspiration, find the answer and do that regularly. Do the things that bring you genuine joy more often. This is an easy way back to your heart, where compassion and love live.
Be kind and generous to others.
When we think badly of others or hate them, - we are filling up our being with that negative energy first. When we are kind and generous to others, we get to experience that energy too. So love yourself first and then love others. Not because they are your family members or friends, love all - a shopkeeper, a bus driver, anybody you meet.
STAY HUMAN.
We can’t be happy non stop, it’s difficult to be kind and loving all the time, so when you slip, don’t beat yourself up. Love yourself, both your good and bad sides, your cheerleader and your critic.The whole of you. Love and accept yourselves as you are, and you will feel the peace and happiness you never thought was possible.
At the end, I will leave you with something that inspired me years ago and it keeps inspiring me… If you don’t value yourself, nobody will value you…
Oh and a bit of Kundalini yoga to open your heart to yourself. Try it on YouTube.
How does it sound? Are you going to try on of those ideas? Please let me know in the comments below.